The following was my opening statement at the gay marriage panel discussion that took place last week on campus. One thing to note, the words “form” and “matter” are also terms used theologically to determine the validity of sacraments and they have a particular meaning in the Sacrament of Matrimony. I, however, define these terms differently for the purpose of the debate to construct a secular and social institution. In sort, those who are theologically minded might notice I’m making these words mean something else but the reality is that I’m talking about marriage as a social institution instead of the Sacramental event. Hope this makes sense. I explicitly avoided the religious angle because I think it would have just been a discussion stopper, for one. “Seperation of Church and State” and all that. I stick with a philosophic view, so I try to form philosophic structures to defend it where people can’t hide behind the wall of seperation. That, and I think, that if the law is going to recognize something and provide benefits, there should be some public good involved. The difference is, I think marriage properly constructed provides that public good, whereas what we have now does not.
The intention of setting this up the way I did was to get people to think. It seems Libertarian, but it’s not. In short, I played a gamble. By saying that we either need to enunciate a public good or get rid of the institution, I’m banking the most people intuitively think we need to keep the institution, so they look for a public good. I think from the response, the thought experiment worked and got a few people thinking.
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I would first like to take this opportunity to thank you for coming tonight. So often in political discourse, warring camps spend so much time attacking each other that rarely do they listen to what others have to say. I believe a free society requires open and free discussion so that when we inevitably disagree on issues, we know what we are disagreeing with. I hope tonight’s civil discourse will help bridge the gap between these ideas so that even though we may disagree, we can still appreciate that we all are essential components of this free society.
From the perspective of the intellectuals opposed to gay marriage, this issue is not really about gay marriage. This issue is about the state of marriage, in general, and we’ve been discontent for a long time. While it certainly may appear that the pushback started with the gay marriage debate, it has been brewing for a long time. Earlier debates on covenant marriage largely reflect this.
What we historically call marriage is an organic, primeval, and pre-political institution. It is most emphatically not a creation of the state or a so-called “legal institution”. Despite brief periods of social experimentation, marriage has always constituted a particular form. Philosophically, we can describe marriage in terms of its “form” (or its participants) and its “matter” (or the nature of the relationship between the participants).
The matter of marriage, until very recently historically speaking, has been a life-long, committed, exclusive, procreative, and sexual change of state. It is hard to view marriage through the lenses of our current experience of disposable relationships as a change of state. Marriage wasn’t viewed as simply a relationship back then. Being married was primary something you were, I change in the very substance of your identity. As our modern experience of the last century has whittled away at the matter of marriage, the idea that marriage constituted a state change has been lost.
The deconstruction of marriage began, I would argue, in 1930 at the Lambeth Conference when the Anglican Communion changed their religious teaching to permit contraception. This began the process of legitimizing the separation between sex and procreation, and namely, has lead most in this country to not only remove procreativity from the matter of marriage, but to view fertility as a disease to be cured. It is not difficult to point to the variety of social ills caused by this separation that makes the bold, yet over-estimated presumption, that sex and procreation are somehow separate activities and that safe sex will somehow completely exclude children.
There were many people who criticized this mainstreaming of contraception and the harm it would eventually visit upon society, children and women in particular. Children are harmed by the notion that they are inconveniences to be avoided and shackles to adult freedom. This notion is not lost on those children and this plays out in the great number of psychopathologies we see in our children today. Women are harmed by this by suffering from poverty in greater proportions, being subjected to a series of unsatisfying relationships, and forced to live in a world of male-centered sexuality.
The over-estimate of “safe sex” necessarily allowed those to behave in sexual ways that were previously prevented if not by ethics or law, by the natural consequence of children resulting from sex. This directly led to premarital sex and extramarital sex in much greater proportions than history has seen. By removing procreativity, exclusivity was eventually removed.
In part, arising from this new idea on sexuality, and in part, arising out of other causes, divorce became and increasing problem. While the law previously made it difficult to get a divorce, this has lead to many couples simply lying or gaming the courts to get what they want. Starting in 1969, California adopted so-called no-fault divorces in which couples could separate without proving someone at “fault” (for instance, adultery, abuse, etc). By 1985, all states had such laws.
It is common in this debate to refer to marriage as a contract. However, marriage as it is currently practiced it is something quite less than a contract. If the marriage “contract” can be, without penalty, unilaterally breached by one party, often with the party gaining in the transaction, it can hardly be considered a contract. Contracts are binding; marriage as it is practiced is at best a short-term economic gentlemen’s agreement. (Show divorce packet). This is the form to petition for divorce, in many cases, this is all it takes in this county. 7 pages. It is easier to get divorced in some ways than it is to get married. If all it takes is one seven page packet of paper to get divorced, how can marriage be considered committed? Much less life-long?
With all of these innovations, the matter of marriage has become essentially non-existent. When the Massachusetts Supreme Court ruled on gay marriage, no one blinked when they suggested that sex was no longer even an essential part of marriage. What is left of marriage after being ravaged by these innovations is little more than a temporary property sharing arrangement. Society behaves as if this is true, yet all the sudden “finds” meaning when gay marriage is involved. This arbitrariness is discrimination.
The question we are faced with now is not whether to allow gay marriage or not, but why we publicly recognize marriage in the first place. If it is merely a private organization of property, there is no reason to exclude gay couples from it. However, there is also no reason to recognize it at all. If a public good cannot be enunciated from what marriage has become, it should not be publicly supported.
Marriages have had public benefit in the past precisely because of their procreativity. Well-adjusted and well-reared children are of immense value to any society, without them we simply become articles of interest to historians and anthropologists, not a living and thriving society. While the matter may be drained from marriage, it can still be restored. By draining the form from marriage also, making marriage “anything you want it to be”, it deconstructs marriage irrevocably. It turns a social institution into a meaningless title leaving people wondering why they bother with it. Something that means anything in effect means nothing. If sex and procreation are merely private relationships, why can’t friends be married for the sake of economics? I’ve never heard any explanation why polygamy won’t be legitimized after gay marriage, and I’ve heard more than one supporter of gay marriage concede that it would. I challenge anyone here who will dispute the previous statement to explain to me how we can have gay marriage and not implicitly be forced to accept polygamy or other “forms” of marriage. I sincerely would like to know.
I have not come here to give voice to Fred Phelps of God Hates Fags infamy. I think society’s mistreatment and demonization of homosexuals is discrimination. In a society of strip joints, adultery, porn, and cheap sex, it is absurd to cherry-pick one “Sex crime” while exonerating the others. You can’t insist sex has meaning and then act as if it does not. I think it’s pretty absurd to make attempts at “keeping score” on which practice is more wrong, while erasing our “favorite vices” out of the ledger.
My opposition is not based solely on the matter of gay marriage in a vacuum, but to the series of acts that have tried to remove any meaning from marriage. I hold we shouldn’t even maintain what we have but instead to return to a relationship that does have meaning, a meaning that is best for men, women, children, and society.
The one thing I hope our society can learn is that disagreeing with an idea does not require dehumanization of political opponents. It is possible to disagree and still treat those with whom you disagree with the full measure of human dignity which they are entitled to. I may disagree with gay marriage, but I would gladly, whole-heartedly, and without reservation man the walls against any who would visit physical harm on a fellow citizen simply because of those disagreements. That was the oath I took when trained as a military officer, an oath which I don’t view myself as released from today.
I hope this helps explains my position and look forward to your questions.
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April 24th, 2006
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By Heidi at Euphoric Reality
Facts are a funny thing. They are conveniently forgotten if they don’t uphold one’s point-of-view, and they’re easily overlooked if they are randomly scattered about. But when solid facts are brought together in one place, the pattern is difficult to ignore. The facts I’m about to provide below are just such a case. People may be able to overlook a single fact, but the weight of their significance cannot be denied when they come together in one place. That is the purpose of this week’s Blogburst - to look at some hard facts.
I think it’s important to study the problems of California, Arizona, New Mexico, and Texas as instructive for the rest of the states. It may be that others can write off the doom of California by saying, “Well, that’s just California, a loony state of fruits and nuts - that would never happen here.” But while California is tipping head-first into ruin, it is highly indicative of the chain of events the rest of us are blindly bumbling through. Arizona and New Mexico have declared official states of emergency because they are completely unable to handle the burden of the influx of illegals into their communities. Texas is not far behind with mass hospital closings, an overwhelmed and declining school system, and a climbing crime rate. Just because one lives in Idaho or Nebraska or Maine does not mean that it won’t happen to you! You’re just a few years behind the curve.
The following 10 facts have been pulled from the LA Times. We’ve posted them all at one time or another at ER or in the Blogburst.
1. L.A. County has 10 million people. 40% of all workers in L.A. County are working for cash and not paying taxes. This is because they are predominantly illegal immigrants, working without a green card.
2. Of the 10 million people in L.A. County, 5.1 million people speak English. 3.9 million speak only Spanish.
3. 95% of warrants for murder in Los Angeles are for illegal aliens.
4. 75% of people on the most wanted list in Los Angeles are illegal aliens.
5. Over two-thirds of all births in Los Angeles County are to illegal alien Mexicans on Medi-Cal whose births were paid for by taxpayers.
6. Nearly 25% of all inmates in California detention centers are Mexican nationals here illegally.
7. Over 300,000 illegal aliens in Los Angeles County are living in garages.
8. The FBI reports half of all gang members in Los Angeles are most likely illegal aliens from south of the border.
9. Nearly 60% of all occupants of HUD properties are illegal.
10. 21 radio stations in L.A. are Spanish language only.
We need to look at the experience of California as inevitable for the rest of us - if we don’t, we’re only burying our heads in the sand and bequeathing that future to our children! After all, if we keep merrily careening down the road to California, we can’t be dumbfounded when we actually end up in California, can we?!
Here are a few more facts on a national scale:
1. Less than 2% of illegal aliens are picking our crops but 36% are on welfare.
2. Over 70% of the United States annual population growth (and over 90% of California, Florida, and New York) results from immigration.
3. The United States receives more immigrants every year than the rest of the world combined.
4. The cost of immigration to the American taxpayer in 1997 was a NET (after subtracting taxes immigrants pay) $70 BILLION a year [Professor Donald Huddle, Rice University].
5. The lifetime fiscal impact (taxes paid minus services used) for the average adult Mexican immigrant is a NEGATIVE.
6. 29% of inmates in federal prisons are illegal aliens.
The problems of illegal immigration are not solely “border state” problems. They impact everyone. California and Texas are the two biggest economic engines in the United States - and they are teetering on bankruptcy on a catastrophic scale. If they go bust, guess who picks up the pieces? Indiana, New Hampshire, South Dakota, West Virginia, and all the rest. Illegal immigration is not - I repeat, NOT - a border state problem. It’s a burden we’re all bearing and a risk we’re all sharing.
We are way past the point of half-way measures and temporary fixes. As a nation, we must demand a definitive, decisive, no-nonsense solution. We cannot be placated by smarmy speeches from self-interested politicians, or fooled by spin semantics (”it’s a guest worker program - not amnesty”), or lulled into apathy by the drone of our everyday lives.
We cannot leave this crisis to our children. Do something! Get out of your comfort zone and get involved. There are bigger issues at stake than the price of lettuce! The time is critical. And it’s NOW.
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This has been a production of the Guard the Borders Blogburst. It was started by Euphoric Reality, and serves to keep immigration issues in the forefront of our minds as we’re going about our daily lives and continuing to fight the war on terror. If you are concerned with the trend of illegal immigration facing our country, join our Blogburst! Just send an email with your blog name and url to euphoricrealitynet at gmail dot com.
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April 24th, 2006
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Of all the columns I’ve ever written, the column on Intelligent Design (where I say ID is not science, that evolution might be sufficient to explain to origins of life, and so on) has generated, by far, the most response. The response largely confirms my thesis, that at the mere mention of Intelligent Design, minds snap shut. In this case, they snapped shut so fast, they didn’t even get to the part where I said ID isn’t science and insist that is what I was saying.
That aside, I think I’ve learned a valuable lesson, to not waste time on the knee-jerk reactionaries in the blogosphere. The gay marriage debate has shown me that it is still possible to disagree with one another and still have an intelligent discussion. However, it is pointless to try to argue with the zealots that troll the fever swamp of prefabricated thought. If they want to comment here, fine. For my part, I’m done with them.
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April 24th, 2006
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